Detachment - A critical phase in writing your dissertation

May 25, 20212 min read

It is easy for doc students to become frustrated in the cycle of  “revolving revisions”… especially as they approach the end of the doctoral journey. Chair and committee requests for revisions are often met with reluctance. Sometimes it's difficult for doc students to recognize the value in revisions, and there is a sense of resistance... that the work we are doing has somehow become a part of who we are. We are too close to our research. We have a deep feeling of connectedness to our ideas and the years of work we have accomplished. This is a painful (and natural) part of the dissertation journey. We’ve talked about perfectionism prison before, and sometimes, this resistance is how it rears its ugly head. 

 

So... how can we move past the frustration, the reluctance to accept when our committee requests revisions?

 

We do so, by aiming for detachment

 

Eight weeks before my own dissertation defense, my chair had asked me to make (what I felt was) a major organizational revision before he felt comfortable sending the draft to my committee. At first, I felt the blood rushing to my head, and the tears started to fill my eyes…

 

and then, it happened.

 

A deep sense of detachment came over me, and I said to him, “I’ll do whatever it takes to get this done and move on with my life”. We were in a video call together. He smiled at me as if to acknowledge that I had finally reached the stage where I was done debating changes with him. “You are almost there…” he said to me.

 

My goal in helping my dissertation coaching clients is to get you to the detachment phase sooner. While each of you has something waiting for you when this is over… a professional promotion, a collegiate teaching career, a tremendous sense of accomplishment, achieving a personal milestone... the dissertation is a means to an end. We are not defined by this sole body of work. Once you can detach yourself from the work you are doing, each revision request met without resistance will get you closer to the finish line. 

 

How many of you are there already? Are you ready (and willing) to meet revisions without resistance? How many of you are still struggling with this?

 

Keep Going. You've Got This!

 

BIG LOVE,

 

I spent the first 40 years of my life beating myself up. 

Finishing my doctoral dissertation after spending four years in the “drift”, it took a personal transformation for me to silence the inner mean girl and activate self-kindness. Now, I’m obsessed with helping other women befriend their inner critic, get out of their own way and achieve their biggest dreams. A seasoned K-12 educational leader and coach, when I finished my dissertation, I started Write the Damn Dissertation. Since 2018 the Write the Damn Dissertation Team has helped over 17,000 doc students (and masters thesis students) make progress on their dissertation and thesis. I live on the eastern shore of the Chesapeake Bay in Maryland with my husband and teenage son, two French bulldogs, and a ragdoll cat. Some things you may not know about me… me and my husband have an Airbnb with 98 (5.0-star) reviews, and absolutely love being hosts. I’m a certified Master Gardener, I’ve raised Nubian Goats, Chickens, Turkeys, Peacocks, and I’m a former Lavender Farmer.

~ Dr. Amy Boyd
Founder and CEO, Write the Damn Dissertation
Coach, Motivational Speaker, Podcast Host

Dr. Amy Boyd

I spent the first 40 years of my life beating myself up. Finishing my doctoral dissertation after spending four years in the “drift”, it took a personal transformation for me to silence the inner mean girl and activate self-kindness. Now, I’m obsessed with helping other women befriend their inner critic, get out of their own way and achieve their biggest dreams. A seasoned K-12 educational leader and coach, when I finished my dissertation, I started Write the Damn Dissertation. Since 2018 the Write the Damn Dissertation Team has helped over 17,000 doc students (and masters thesis students) make progress on their dissertation and thesis. I live on the eastern shore of the Chesapeake Bay in Maryland with my husband and teenage son, two French bulldogs, and a ragdoll cat. Some things you may not know about me… me and my husband have an Airbnb with 98 (5.0-star) reviews, and absolutely love being hosts. I’m a certified Master Gardener, I’ve raised Nubian Goats, Chickens, Turkeys, Peacocks, and I’m a former Lavender Farmer. ~ Dr. Amy Boyd Founder and CEO, Write the Damn Dissertation Coach, Motivational Speaker, Podcast Host

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